She’s 24, married less than two years. It’s her first marriage, his second. She goes to college and works in the evening. He works during the day in a job that he doesn’t enjoy. She says the passion is gone from their marriage and they’ve been talking about divorce. She wonders if their marriage can be repaired.
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Author: Pat Gaudette
Her Struggle With Midlife Issues
Midlife crisis isn’t just a problem men have to deal with as they get older. Women, too, struggle with issues that may change their life course completely.
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Marriage To An Alcoholic
They’ve been married for four years and have a young son. She says her husband’s alcohol abuse is ruining their marriage. She wanted my advice.
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Their Codependent Marriage
She has been the primary support during their 16-year marriage. Her husband works when he feels like it, runs up bills, borrows from family and friends, and expects her to take care of his debts, which she does. Her oldest son from her first marriage wants her to get a divorce and move closer to him. She feels guilty about leaving her husband since he doesn’t have any money and he has alienated everyone he knows.
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Married To A Control Freak
She says he has always been a “control freak” but the past couple of years of their five-year marriage have exhausted her. Despite bouts of depression and dealing with his alcoholism, she was working to keep their marriage together. Her feelings changed when he confessed to several affairs. Now she doesn’t know what to do.
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Their Codependent Relationship
She says her husband is cruel and vicious, accuses her of things he knows she hasn’t done, and never takes the blame for any of their marital problems. Over their 22-year relationship, he has cheated multiple times, divorcing her twice to marry the other woman only to cheat during those marriages with her. Their current marriage is ending and she can’t figure out why he treats her so badly when she’s always there when he needs her.
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Why Marriage Changes Everything
Ending a dating relationship is fairly easy: just walk away. Sure, someone is going to be hurt but what legalities are there to untangle? If the couple has purchased property together that can be resolved easier than dividing marital property.
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From Wedding To Divorce
Tori Spelling has married her soul mate. In what seems to be typical Hollywood style, this marriage was made possible only after she divorced her husband and he divorced his wife. Not only that, the happy couple is expecting their first child. Do we care?
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Celebrity Divorces: Top 10 Of 2005
When you’re a celebrity and your marriage is falling apart, it’s difficult to keep the press from digging for details. The following are some of the more “sensational” celebrity divorces and split-ups reported during 2005. The list has not been updated to reflect the couples’ current status.
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Celebrity Divorces: Tom Cruise
Tom Cruise is the current “hot” celebrity with his every move duly noted by the media. Scientology, the birth of daughter Suri, a lengthy engagement to young starlet Katie Holmes, have all helped bring him the big bucks at the box office.
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Celebrity Divorces: Pamela Anderson
Pamela Anderson’s off screen exploits continue to put sizzle into the tabloid gossip columns. It’s doubtful her 2006 marriage to rock start Kid Rock will keep her out of the headlines.
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Celebrity Divorces: Jane Fonda
Jane Fonda is a celebrity whose off-screen exploits have done more harm than good for her career. When she spoke against American soldiers during the Vietnam war, no amount of apologies later on would undo the damage.
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Celebrity Divorces, Part 5
Tabloid headlines and box office success go hand-in-hand. When a celebrity’s marriage hits the skids and becomes gossip column fare, their bankability shoots skyward.
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Celebrity Divorces: Marilyn Monroe
Marilyn Monroe was anything but dumb but with her face and figure nobody cared how smart she was. On screen she was the beauty every man wanted. Off screen, her life was pretty dismal as true love continued to elude her. Conspiracy theories continue regarding her death in 1962: was it murder or suicide?
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Celebrity Divorces: Elizabeth Taylor
As beautiful as Elizabeth Taylor was, as successful as she was on screen, her off-screen life wasn’t so secure. She may have tried to marry for love, but love either eluded her completely or was devastatingly short-lived.
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Celebrity Divorces: Janet Jackson And Michael Jackson
Michael Jackson and his sister Janet are the kind of celebrities that couldn’t evade the media if they tried. They are two of the most watched performers of the past couple of decades. As flashy as their performances are, the drama in their personal lives sometimes is even more attention-getting. When it comes to Michael Jackson, some of that drama is downright bizarre.
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Celebrity Divorces, Part 4
Here are more celebrity marriages and divorces which have appeared in the gossip columns over the years. The information has been gathered from sources both on and off the Internet.
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Celebrity Divorces, Part 3
This is part of a lengthy listing of celebrity marriages and divorces. The information has been assembled from Web searches, newspaper and magazine articles, and other resources.
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Celebrity Divorces, Part 2
Our fascination with the personal lives of the rich and famous sells millions of newspapers, magazines, and books. Here are more celebrity marriages and divorces, listed in no particular order.
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A Controlling Husband
She has been married for three years to a man she says is cruel and controlling. She says he feels his job is to make the money and pay bills while her job is to take care of the home, their two children, and him. When she tries to tell him there are problems, he won’t listen. Recently, a diagnosis of lupus has her thinking of divorce although when her parents’ marriage ended, she vowed she’d never put her own kids through a divorce.
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Divorce And Hurricanes
I had the chance to talk with a woman who used to live in one of the coastal areas destroyed by Hurricane Katrina. She enjoyed living in her condo overlooking the water but a few years ago she moved to another state when she began having doubts about the safety of the area. Staying seemed too much of a gamble, one she didn’t want to take. She has family and friends in the area, some still unaccounted for, who either could not move elsewhere or who did not want to leave the area.
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Celebrity Divorces
There’s no doubt that divorce is much more common than it was in decades past. Marriage doesn’t seem to mean as much as it did when our parents and their parents vowed to stay together for life.
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Her Credit Card Debt Causing Marital Rift
She says her recent credit card debt has her husband acting cold and indifferent. When her husband’s first marriage ended, he lost everything and he says her new debt shows they don’t have the same goals in their relationship. She thinks his age, late 40s, has a lot to do with his thinking. She wonders if the marriage is going to end.
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Marital Sex Abuse
Forcing a spouse to engage in sexual activities against their will is sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is not about love nor is it about enjoying the sex act. Sexual abuse is about one person controlling another in one of the most emotionally damaging acts possible.
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When It’s Time To End A Marriage
His wife has been physically and verbally abusive for the 15 years they have been married. Despite counseling her behaviors have not changed and he feels marriage is over. She has made threats if he goes through with a divorce and has told him he wants out because he’s having a midlife crisis. He’s worried about the children and wonders what he should do.
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Marital Rape, Wife Rape
Is sex on demand the price a wife pays for being married? Does a husband have the right to force his wife to have sex when he’s in the mood even if she’s not? At what point does the sex act turn into rape?
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Abusers Beget Abusers
Children learn from their environment. Living with a father who is abusive to their mother teaches them that abuse is acceptable. They believe it’s a normal way that husbands and wives relate to each other. They may grow up to abuse their spouse or they may grow up and marry an abuser. Either way, they continue the cycle of abuse and then pass it along to their children.
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Abusive Personalities
I’m amazed at the number of reality television programs that continue to make it to air time based on nothing more than the premise that we all want to see what goes on in the lives of people not quite as ordinary as ourselves.
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A Relationship In Trouble?
I accompanied my husband on one of his trips to the neighboring county courthouse and waited as he took care of recording some documents he needed for his business.
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Sex With A Cheating Spouse
Most married couples don’t practice safe sex. They believe they don’t need to protect themselves from sexually transmitted diseases due to the implied monogamy of marriage. For some husbands and wives this can be a fatal mistake.
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Husbands Who Cheat
A man knows if he is caught having sex with someone other than his wife he will probably pay an enormous price. Even knowing that his marriage is at stake, some men will still risk it all to sample sex with others.
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He Cheated, She Needs Answers
Her husband didn’t come home one night and she worried that something had happened to him. When he called the next morning, he said that he had spent the night with someone he picked up in a bar. She doesn’t know how he could be so cruel or why he would cheat. She’s in the process of divorce and having problems moving past the “why.”
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Revenge Cheating, Part 2
He took exception to what I said to a man who cheated to get even with his wife’s adultery. He said, when his wife cheated on him, his counselor told him if he needed to cheat to even the score it was okay.
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Revenge Cheating
He found proof his wife cheated but they decided to stay together and work on repairing their marriage. His resentment over her affair continued to grow and he decided to cheat on her to “even the score.” As soon as he had sex he called his wife to tell her that they were even. He doesn’t understand why she now wants a divorce. He says he cheated because she did and, if he could forgive her, she should be able to forgive him.
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Married Acting Single
In four years of marriage, she says her husband has betrayed her several times. In addition to going to clubs by himself, he has been spending a lot of time online and portrays himself as a single man in posts and emails to other women. She doesn’t trust him and doesn’t believe he can stop cheating.
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Why Is It Worse When A Wife Cheats?
The movie is told from a man’s perspective as he dates several women. During the course of the movie he meets, falls in love with, and then breaks up with one woman. While he dates and beds various other women, he becomes obsessed with the possibility that his former girlfriend may have sex with someone else.
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Now She Knows He Cheated
They’ve been married eight years and have two children. For more than a year she suspected he was having an affair and it was recently confirmed. He says it’s now over but he still cares for the woman he cheated with. They’re going for marriage counseling but she wonders if the odds are against their marriage surviving.
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Torn Between Her Husband And Her Lover
She’s in love with “Bob” who stays in an unhappy marriage because of his two children. She has been married to “John” for three years and recently told him about her affair with Bob. John wants to stay married. She’s not sure what she wants to do.
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In Love With The Wrong Person
He’s been having an affair with a divorced woman for the past two years. Now she’s planning on remarrying her abusive ex-husband. He says he loves her dearly and doesn’t want her to get hurt by him again. He asks what should he do.
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Is An Affair The Answer?
He says if it weren’t for their children and marital assets that he would have divorced years ago. To complicate things, the emotional affair he’s been having with a co-worker is now taking on sexual overtones. Rather than risk everything by filing for divorce too soon, he wonders if he should have an affair to see if his marriage is worth ending for a more serious relationship with his girlfriend.
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His Wife Wants Marriage And Her Lover
His wife is having an affair, doesn’t want to end it, but doesn’t want a divorce either. They have four children and currently live across the country from each other. He wonders if there’s any hope for their marriage.
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Should She Cheat With Ex?
She says her husband has dementia and isn’t interested in having sex with her. He has suggested she find someone for a relationship as long as she comes home afterward to care for him. Her ex-husband, who has remarried, seems to be the best choice for a sexual partner. She wonders what she should do.
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Upset By His Wife’s Sexual Affairs
He recently learned his wife had sex with many of his friends when they were separated but working on a reconciliation. When they reconciled she didn’t tell him of her sexual escapades which included swinging. He says the fact they have two young children complicates a divorce but he can’t stand being around her because of the lies.
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She Cheated, Now He Cheats
Her husband left after she cheated. Now he’s living with a girlfriend but calling her. She wonders if she’s fooling herself by thinking his calls mean he might come back. He tells her he’s not ready to file for divorce. She doesn’t know what she should do.
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She’s Pregnant, He’s Cheating
She’s newly married and eight months pregnant. She has caught him in lies about a co-worker who he admits kissing but not having sex with. She wonders how to deal with the rest of her marriage.
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Which Should He Choose?
His first love, “Jane,” who dumped him, is having marital problems and he’d like to help. His wife doesn’t like him paying attention to Jane so he has been sneaking around to see her. He doesn’t love Jane but thinks he could and maybe could even learn to trust her again. He says he loves his wife and kids but sometimes is unhappy with his marriage.
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The Stonecipher/Boeing Affair
Harry and Joan Stonecipher have been married for 50 years but did the fact that they didn’t celebrate their 50th anniversary in the same style they celebrated their 40th mean all was not right in the Stonecipher marriage? Did Joan know Harry was cheating before someone exposed the affair and ended his career with Boeing?
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She’s Thinking About Cheating
She said her husband cheated a couple years ago when she was spending a lot of time working and not spending much time on their marriage. She says the love she had for him has never returned and now she’s considering cheating. She hasn’t cheated yet but thinks that if a stranger paid the right attention to her she might not be able to say “no.”
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Marital Sex Missing?
She says her husband is “one of the best human beings any person can meet.” There’s just one problem: he has no interest in sexual intimacy. She says that for the past several years they have had a “best friends” kind of marriage. She wonders if divorce is her only answer.
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Her Mother’s Divorce
Her mother and stepfather are in the process of divorce due to his affair with a coworker. She says her mother is depressed and trying desperately to get her husband to come back to their marriage. She wants to help her mother but feels that there’s no hope for the marriage and she’s getting tired of her mother’s questions when she sees her stepdad.
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