In four years of marriage, she says her husband has betrayed her several times. In addition to going to clubs by himself, he has been spending a lot of time online and portrays himself as a single man in posts and emails to other women. She doesn’t trust him and doesn’t believe he can stop cheating.
I said:
Fidelity in a marriage is very important. It sounds as if your husband, despite having the responsibilities of a husband and father, behaves as if he is single and available. As long as you accept his behavior he will have no reason to change it.
Decide what you need from a husband and what you will accept. If he can’t meet those needs and his behavior is not acceptable, it’s up to you to do what it takes to set a good example for your children.
Counseling for yourself, if he won’t go with you, is a good start.
What will she do?
Many women feel that they have no choice but to stay in a bad marriage. Perhaps they’re stay-at-home moms without what they think are marketable skills. Perhaps they feel that any type of marriage provides more security than no marriage at all.
Each of us must make the decision that works best for us. Divorce is never easy but neither is a lifetime of less than acceptable compromises.