They’ve been married eight years and have two children. For more than a year she suspected he was having an affair and it was recently confirmed. He says it’s now over but he still cares for the woman he cheated with. They’re going for marriage counseling but she wonders if the odds are against their marriage surviving.
I said:
He has betrayed your trust, hurting you as deeply as a man can hurt a woman. It is now up to you to make every effort to forgive and forget so that this does not poison your love for him and destroy your marriage. Counseling is an excellent start.
What brought your husband and this woman together in the first place? Do they work together or have some type of common bond? Since he still has feelings for her, the more he can avoid contact the better the chance of those feelings subsiding.
Your husband made a very bad mistake. It has been done, it cannot be undone no matter how much you or he might wish it to have never happened. Don’t let the past destroy your chances for a happy future together. Learn from this mistake, let it help your marriage grow stronger.