Her husband left after she cheated. Now he’s living with a girlfriend but calling her. She wonders if she’s fooling herself by thinking his calls mean he might come back. He tells her he’s not ready to file for divorce. She doesn’t know what she should do.
I said:
You had an affair then six months ago your husband left because of that affair. He’s seeing someone else, but he doesn’t want a divorce and calls now and then. If the two of you are still married, then he is currently doing the cheating, isn’t he? So he continues to punish you for having done the same thing. These are games, painful games.
It’s a funny thing about waiting around for someone… when they know you’re there, they have no incentive to make a decision because no matter how long they keep doing what they’re doing, you’ll be waiting for them.
I’d suggest you take charge of your life, make some decisions and work at making yourself independent and happy. That may mean you’ll hurt before you feel better, but aren’t you hurting now?
Today’s the first day of the rest of your life. How do you want it to begin?