He’s been having an affair with a divorced woman for the past two years. Now she’s planning on remarrying her abusive ex-husband. He says he loves her dearly and doesn’t want her to get hurt by him again. He asks what should he do.
I said:
It is painful to have to watch silently as another person makes, what we believe to be, mistakes with their life. Unfortunately, that is the only role available to you. This is her life and her choice, despite the abuse and pain. You cannot do anything to stop them from remarrying. They are adults and they may do as they wish.
You casually mention that you have a wife. Clearly you do not care for her nor love her much, or do you? Do you understand that your involvement with this other woman causes your wife hurt, humiliation and pain?
While you are so concerned about this other woman getting hurt, you seem to have no concern about the woman to whom you are married. What has she done to be treated this way?