A man knows if he is caught having sex with someone other than his wife he will probably pay an enormous price. Even knowing that his marriage is at stake, some men will still risk it all to sample sex with others.
Just as participating in a dangerous sport can be extremely exhilirating due to the risk, adultery can provide the same type of rush as the adulterer creates a double life designed to keep his wife clueless and his lover grateful.
Even if a man is involved in an exit affair, a cowardly way out of a marriage, he must orchestrate it so that his wife picks up on the clues that leave no doubt he is being unfaithful. In twisted logic, he would rather be known as an adulterer than as the “bad guy” who initiated a divorce. He may be unprepared for the devastation that follows.
If he wants to stay married but cheats to add extra excitement between the sheets, a man’s biggest fear when he starts a long term affair may be that his wife will become suspicious of why he’s spending so much time away from home. As the affair progresses, he may find he has even more to worry about if his lover begins pressing for a commitment and threatens to bring the affair into the open.
No matter what the other woman may have agreed to when the affair began, most women aren’t happy being the woman of convenience. Sooner or later, most other women expect to be the next wife. No matter what promises a married man may have made in order to get his lover to bed, the truth may be that he planned for her to be a convenient “booty call” not a permanent fixture in his life.
The odds are that most men who cheat will get caught. Their biggest gamble, one that many will lose, is that their wife may chose to end the marriage rather than gamble on their ability to be faithful in the future.