She’s newly married and eight months pregnant. She has caught him in lies about a co-worker who he admits kissing but not having sex with. She wonders how to deal with the rest of her marriage.
I said:
I suspect the two of you married because of the baby and not because you were in love and ready to make a lifelong commitment to each other. It’s not the recommended formula for starting a life together, but your marriage isn’t the first to start this way, and it can succeed despite the odds stacked against it. If, of course, BOTH of you want to make it a success.
His making the appointment with a counselor is a plus for him despite his apparent fooling around. As far as trusting him, that’s something you’ll have to do one day at a time. Look at it this way, if he is cheating, why ruin your life by worrying about it? If he isn’t cheating, why ruin your life thinking he is?
You have two priorities right now, each of equal importance. Your marriage and your baby. I don’t include you as a priority because if both of these elements are in tune, everything else will fall into place. Good luck.