Some women continue to have sex with their ex-husband after divorce even if there’s no hope of reconciliation. In some cases they feel degraded after every sexual encounter.
Why? He may be the only man they’ve ever had sex with. They would rather have sex with a man they know than deal with dating and sex with someone new. They may think their ex will return home if they continue having sex with him.
Playing the dating sex game
How does a woman who was in a long term marriage with the only man she ever had sex with feel comfortable with the sexual aspects of dating after divorce?
If her husband was sexually naive when they married, their sex life may have been limited to one or two positions and they both may have been too embarrassed to suggest anything new in the bedroom.
Unfortunately for a lot of marriages, the bedroom is one place that honesty and communication doesn’t prevail.
If the marriage ended because he found himself a new lover who provided sexual sizzle for him, her self-esteem drops that much lower. If she wasn’t “good enough” to satisfy her husband, how could she possibly be good enough to satisfy someone else?
For starters, how does she get past the embarrassment of being nude in front of someone who isn’t her husband?
Won’t she betray her vows (even after divorce) by having sex with someone else?
For a woman whose marriage vows are solid, adjusting to divorce and the freedoms it provides can take a long time.