She wants a commitment from her boyfriend who she says is “skittish” about committing to their relationship. There’s just one problem: she is separated and just starting the legal process of divorce.
I said:
Aren’t you putting “the cart before the horse” here? You are still married. How can he commit to you when you can’t legally commit to him? You may be “willing to try again” but you have some important business to close before you tackle another committed relationship, or even search for another potential spouse.
You’ve been separated for a long time but you’re now trying to get a divorce. Does this mean you’ve been staying in the marriage so you would have a “security blanket” if things in the “single world” didn’t work out?
I’ve never felt that property was worth holding onto when freedom was the price I was paying. If you really wanted a divorce, you’d have it by now. If you’re serious about ending your marriage, find a good divorce attorney in your area and get it over with. When you need help dealing with life after divorce and entry into the world of the newly single, I have plenty of information on those topics. For now, first things first.