Marriage is possibly the least understood, and most unprepared for, career choice a person can make. Don’t be fooled by the warm fuzzy feelings or the sexual energy of a good relationship. Marriage is hard work.
Many marriages start for all the wrong reasons: lust, unplanned pregnancy, money, co-dependency. Instead of building a strong foundation, many couples rush into marriage based upon their first impressions.
It takes time to see past the “dating persona” most people project when they’re trying to impress someone they’ve met. Too often, the wedding takes place before that false face comes down and the real person is exposed.
It’s too bad that marriage doesn’t require formal training the same as other career choices do. We wouldn’t trust just anyone to perform surgery on us but we trust someone with absolutely no marital training with our future.
The processes of marriage and divorce are backwards. It should be difficult to get married. Attorneys and counselors should be involved in the marriage planning well before the wedding date is set. The legalities of the marriage should be decided upon and relationship counseling completed prior to ordering a wedding dress or writing the guest list.
With more than 50 percent of all marriages ending in divorce, there’s a very good chance that attorneys and counselors are in your future. Wouldn’t it be smart to use the services of these professionals to help make your union a solid one from the start instead of depending upon them to protect you when your marriage shatters?