He’s recently divorced after 23 years of marriage. He is emotionally involved with a woman who is married but “planning to do something soon.” He wonders if he should continue pursuing her considering the circumstances.
I said:
“Soon” can be a lifetime. She’s either married or she isn’t. If she isn’t, nothing should stand in your way toward developing this relationship further. If she is, walk away. Right now, it doesn’t matter how strongly you feel toward her, she’s a married woman.
If she had been your wife during these last three years, and her husband had been you, how would you have felt about his involvement in your marriage?
If the abuse is physical, and she needs protection, there are legal steps she can take as she removes herself from this marriage. Your involvement at this point could possibly jeopardize a child custody agreement and maybe more.