If you’re just coming out of a long term marriage, the new dating game can be extremely intimidating. It’s intimidating for everyone so try to relax and ease into the shallow end of the dating pool instead of plunging headlong into the deep end.
If your divorce is not legally over, you’re still legally married. Getting seriously involved with someone else isn’t a good idea until you’ve severed your marital ties and done the necessary “me” work.
It’s easy to mistake lust for love and rebound love for true love. If you’re newly divorced and think you’ve found your soul mate, it may just be rebound love and lust at work. Slow down. Don’t rush into something that could end in a second divorce.
Don’t make your ex the topic of conversation with your dates. That’s history and most history is very boring to someone you’re dating. The person you’re dating wants to be the entire focus of your attention.
Don’t bring your dates home right away to meet your children. Your children are dealing with their own issues as a result of the divorce. Don’t draw them into dating relationships that are temporary at best. And don’t ask them if they think the person you’re dating would be a good mommy or daddy for them. No matter how much of a jerk your ex may be, he or she is still your children’s parent.
Don’t remain sexually active with your ex and expect anyone you’re dating to be understanding. Cut the physical ties with your ex completely before looking for new love.
To date successfully, you must be confident with yourself. Take time to unpack your emotional baggage before looking for someone to join you on life’s journey.