She wrote to explain that she and her ex-husband are now having an affair. They divorced several years ago; she is single, he remarried. He and his current wife have two children.
Somehow their love (or lust) just never died and after spending considerable time together without becoming intimate, “one thing lead to another” and they have begun a full-blown affair. He, of course, tells her how much he loves her and how much he’d like to leave his wife to remarry her but there’s the children in his current marriage to consider.
There’s also another child to consider, the one they had together when they were married. He loves that child, too.
So what does the future hold for this former wife who is now her ex’s mistress? Does he love her enough to divorce his current wife? Will the same problems that caused them to divorce the first time cause a second time around to fail? Or is he stringing her along, giving her the typical excuses that many men give to the women they enjoy as sexual partners without legal entanglements?
Some women enjoy the chase. A single man is obviously available but a married man is a prize to be “won” from someone else. One much younger other woman took delight in convincing her lover to leave his wife only to refuse to marry him once he filed for divorce. She wasn’t interested in marriage, she just wanted his wife to know which woman was in control of her husband. Maybe this ex-wife is playing the same game.
It’s hard to say just who is playing who in this dirty little game.
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