Learning to date again, and taking time to make the right choices, is all part of surviving divorce. Dating while you’re separated and waiting for the legalities to be over is not the time to seek commitment with someone else.
It takes time to work through all the emotional garbage that you carry away with you when your marriage fails. You may not believe that. You may think you are ready for commitment. And, in extremely rare circumstances, you might be.
But, if you’re like the majority of us, you need time, lots of time, to work through the anger, hurt, pain, animosity, depression, hate, and every other negative emotion that comes to the surface at this time.
Let’s face it, how can you possibly be completely in control when your home is split, your life partner is gone, and your lifestyle is compromised?
It’s a temporary state, thank goodness. But when you’re in it, it seems as though it will never end. And the thought of being wrapped in comforting arms is about as close to heaven as it gets. What we won’t do for a hug on those lonely days!
It’s your life, you’ll have to set the pace and take the good days with the bad. Being responsible for yourself means you have no one to blame when things don’t work out, and only yourself to praise when they do.