If you are facing divorce you are probably also facing the “fear factor.” Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of being alone.
If you’ve never been divorced, you don’t realize just how capable you really can be when necessary. If you’ve been divorced, you’re less apt to be paralyzed by fear and uncertainty. Divorce isn’t the great unknown. You know you can survive. You know divorce doesn’t mean the end of life.
Learning to survive divorce is like anything else in life. When you need to know, you learn to do. Divorce is not a disgraceful place to be. It is a place that you’re in because of circumstances that may be completely out of your control. You may not want the divorce, but you may not be able to stop it.
You can dwell on the unfortunate aspects of facing divorce, or you can gather the strength that’s deep within you and vow not to let these circumstances destroy the rest of your life.
Divorce will most certainly rock your world. It will push you to the depths and past your limits. It will bring out the best and the worst in you.
It will make you stronger, more self-reliant. You will learn to trust in yourself.
You will learn to be your own best friend.
And you will survive. It won’t be easy. It won’t be overnight. It won’t be without pain. It won’t be without relapses into the worlds of “what if” and “if only.”