Has someone ever said to you “Oh, but it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” expecting that to put a positive spin on your divorce? In other words, maybe you’ve lost love but that’s not as bad as never having been loved. No doubt they mean well, but it’s a fairly clueless comment to make to someone whose marriage is ending.
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\nBeing embroiled in a bitter divorce may cause a person to respond that if they had known “love” would cause so much pain they would have said “no, thanks” and remained single.<\/p>\n
It’s not unusual for someone going through a bad divorce to vow they will never marry again. Nor is it unusual for a divorce survivor to be wary about falling in love. Time dulls the pain and love and marriage again become desirable.<\/p>\n
Does the depth and purity of future love change when factoring in the “loved and lost” aspect of a previous divorce?<\/p>\n
Marriage “should” begin with the belief that the commitment is being made for a lifetime because of the love each person has for the other. Divorce adds the reality of impermanence to subsequent marriages.<\/p>\n
Perhaps it takes the loss of love to realize just how important it is to do everything possible to keep a marriage together if there is even the slightest chance of working things out.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Has someone ever said to you “Oh, but it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all” expecting that to put a positive spin on your divorce? In other words, maybe you’ve lost love but that’s not as bad as never having been loved. No doubt they mean well, but … Continue reading “Better To Have Loved And Lost?”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[3],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/882"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=882"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/882\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3002,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/882\/revisions\/3002"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=882"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=882"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=882"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}