{"id":817,"date":"2006-10-23T11:50:07","date_gmt":"2006-10-23T15:50:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patg.com\/Divorce\/are-their-needs-changing.htm"},"modified":"2016-05-02T09:38:48","modified_gmt":"2016-05-02T13:38:48","slug":"are-their-needs-changing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/are-their-needs-changing.htm","title":{"rendered":"Are Their Needs Changing?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>They have dealt with many serious issues throughout their 15-year marriage. Those issues have brought them to a crossroads. It&#8217;s time to commit and repair their marriage or let go and move on. She isn&#8217;t sure if she can get back the feelings she used to have for him.<br \/>\n<!--more--><br \/>\n<b>I said:<\/b><\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s always hope, but it takes tremendous work on your part, and his, to return to a marriage filled with love. From what you say, your marriage hasn&#8217;t been a joyous one for a long time. Perhaps your relationship was founded on emotional needs that are no longer valid.<\/p>\n<p>The two of you are changing, hopefully for the better. That means you&#8217;re not the same people you were at the beginning of your marriage, when the &#8220;spark&#8221; was strong, when your &#8220;needs&#8221; matched.<\/p>\n<p>Do you want to want him because he needs you, or because you need him as well? Can you love him as a friend? Has he ever been a friend? Have you ever really enjoyed each other&#8217;s company? Can you make each other smile? Can you get to the emotional intimacy level with your husband that you got to with your male friend? Can he with you?<\/p>\n<p>How numb would you feel if you saw him in the arms of another woman? Would you care? Would you cry? Or would you rejoice and move on?<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t dump 15 years without a strong effort, but don&#8217;t stay because you think holding on is your only option.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>They have dealt with many serious issues throughout their 15-year marriage. Those issues have brought them to a crossroads. It&#8217;s time to commit and repair their marriage or let go and move on. She isn&#8217;t sure if she can get back the feelings she used to have for him.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[13],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/817"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=817"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/817\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3116,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/817\/revisions\/3116"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=817"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=817"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=817"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}