{"id":805,"date":"2006-10-23T10:33:36","date_gmt":"2006-10-23T14:33:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.patg.com\/Divorce\/separated-and-expecting-commitment.htm"},"modified":"2016-05-02T09:40:26","modified_gmt":"2016-05-02T13:40:26","slug":"separated-and-expecting-commitment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/separated-and-expecting-commitment.htm","title":{"rendered":"Separated And Expecting Commitment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>She wants a commitment from her boyfriend who she says is &#8220;skittish&#8221; about committing to their relationship. There&#8217;s just one problem: she is separated and just starting the legal process of divorce.<br \/>\n<!--more--><br \/>\n<strong>I said:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Aren&#8217;t you putting &#8220;the cart before the horse&#8221; here? You are still married. How can he commit to you when you can&#8217;t legally commit to him? You may be &#8220;willing to try again&#8221; but you have some important business to close before you tackle another committed relationship, or even search for another potential spouse.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;ve been separated for a long time but you&#8217;re now trying to get a divorce. Does this mean you&#8217;ve been staying in the marriage so you would have a &#8220;security blanket&#8221; if things in the &#8220;single world&#8221; didn&#8217;t work out?<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve never felt that property was worth holding onto when freedom was the price I was paying. If you really wanted a divorce, you&#8217;d have it by now. If you&#8217;re serious about ending your marriage, find a good divorce attorney in your area and get it over with. When you need help dealing with life after divorce and entry into the world of the newly single, I have plenty of information on those topics. For now, first things first.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>She wants a commitment from her boyfriend who she says is &#8220;skittish&#8221; about committing to their relationship. There&#8217;s just one problem: she is separated and just starting the legal process of divorce.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[6],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/805"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=805"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/805\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3128,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/805\/revisions\/3128"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=805"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=805"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=805"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}