All of us have things that we absolutely can’t do. When we encounter certain situations and tell someone we “can’t” we are stating a fact, not being obstinate or difficult. “Can’t” works when we are unable to do something because of a physical, mental, emotional, financial, or other limitation that is totally out of our control.
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\nWhen your spouse says “I can’t” how many times does it more accurately translate to “I won’t”?<\/p>\n
“I can’t control my temper.” = “I won’t <\/i>control my temper.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t let her go.” = “I won’t <\/i>let her go.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t stop smoking.” = “I won’t <\/i>stop smoking.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t give you the affection you want.” = “I won’t <\/i>give you the affection you want.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t stop spending money we don’t have.” = “I won’t <\/i>stop spending money we don’t have.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t stop thinking about the past.” = “I won’t <\/i>stop thinking about the past.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t leave.” = “I won’t <\/i>leave.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t get over him.” = “I won’t <\/i>get over him.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t stop thinking about her.” = “I won’t <\/i>stop thinking about her.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t stop drinking.” = “I won’t <\/i>stop drinking.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t stop hitting you.” = “I won’t <\/i>stop hitting you.”<\/p>\n
“I can’t forgive you.” = “I won’t <\/i>forgive you.”<\/p>\n
“And, for those I have missed, fill in the blanks: “I can’t stop____________.” = “I won’t <\/i>stop_______________.”<\/p>\n
Would you still excuse his or her behavior if your spouse said “I won’t” instead of “I can’t”? How about if “I can’t” became “I choose not to,” because it’s a choice a person makes when they won’t <\/i>do something. Wouldn’t it make you angry that he or she didn’t love you enough to do whatever it took to make the marriage a success?<\/p>\n
Don’t you deserve better? It’s your choice. Take control of your life. If you say “I can’t,” you’re really saying you choose not to.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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