{"id":2930,"date":"2013-09-24T19:02:39","date_gmt":"2013-09-24T19:02:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/advice.friendsandlovers.com\/?p=2930"},"modified":"2013-09-24T19:02:39","modified_gmt":"2013-09-24T19:02:39","slug":"what-does-he-really-want","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/what-does-he-really-want.htm","title":{"rendered":"What Does He Really Want?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>My boyfriend has been hanging around gay men and going with them to bath houses and he tells me &#8220;I lead them on to get what I want from them&#8221;.  It hurts me so much to hear him say this to me.  Would this not throw up a red flag to anyone else?<\/em> <!--more--><\/p>\n<p><em>I&#8217;ve started believing that he may have slept with some of the gay men.  However, when I ask him he states, &#8220;its never happened&#8221;.  I want to believe him but in the back of my mind I don&#8217;t believe him but I still love him and want him to come back home to me and start to live the life we once shared .  Do you think this will be possible or am I setting myself up to be more hurt than I&#8217;m already feeling.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>What is it that he wants from these gay men that he has to go to bath houses with them to get? Yes, big red flags are flying, why aren&#8217;t you seeing them? Are you really that much in denial?<\/p>\n<p>Until you get this resolved you should never have sex with him without protection, not even once. And you should immediately get tested for STDs. His behavior and choice of &#8220;friends&#8221; is putting your life at risk. ~ Pat <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My boyfriend has been hanging around gay men and going with them to bath houses and he tells me &#8220;I lead them on to get what I want from them&#8221;. It hurts me so much to hear him say this to me. Would this not throw up a red flag to anyone else?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[13],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2930"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2930"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2930\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2930"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2930"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/patg.com\/articles\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2930"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}