I’m in a situation where I believe my husband is gay but will probably never admit it. a couple of years ago, i found out that he had been sending out pics of himself on Craigslist men 4 men. I found out through looking through old cameras etc, that he had been doing this for years.
He told me he was sexually abused by an older cousin when he was young and he thinks this is an explanation for his behavior and states adamantly that he is not gay. His therapist also tells him he isn’t gay.
He talked me into staying with him, but I regret this because we still don’t have sex, I thought things might change when he stopped the craigslist and other activities but it hasn’t.
I feel stuck, he’s the only man I’ve ever truly loved, but I’m not getting what I want out of this relationship. What is your opinion?
My opinion doesn’t matter, yours does. Regardless of what he or his therapist say, his sexual needs are different than yours. A healthy marital relationship includes mutually satisfying sex between partners. Your marriage does not and while sex is not a critical issue in some marriages, it is in yours (and it is in most marriages).
Personally, this would be a deal-breaker if it was my marriage. You have to decide if it’s a deal-breaker for yours. Good luck with your decision. I know it won’t be easy. ~ Pat