Hi, I met a single Asian mom 2 months ago. She has a large friend base and is protective of her son who I have not met. and her friends-family. Fireworks right from the start.
I can only see her when her schedule allows couple times a month. She travels to see friends on weekends and works hard all week partys a couple times during the week. She is 44 I am 46. Continue reading “The Risks of Love”
If my husband has cheated would it be wrong for me to see someone, if I have left him and seeking a divorce.
Until you’re legally divorced, you’re legally married. So, is it wrong for a married woman to “see someone”? I wouldn’t but many women do. It has to be your decision because you’ll be living with the consequences if the new relationship doesn’t work out or if you and your husband decide to reconcile. ~ Pat
I have been seeing a guy that ive known for years as a friend, we had both had pretty bad experiences prior to our getting together, we have found that we enjoy spending time together and there is and always has been an attraction between us that we had never acted on untill now. Continue reading “Should Friends Become Lovers?”
I hadn’t dated much when I got married the first time and coming out of a long-term marriage, I really wasn’t too savvy when I dove into the dating pool. Luckily, on my first dive I met Mr. Right. Continue reading “How To Hide A Broken Heart”
He’s newly divorced after an 11-year marriage and has been dating a woman 17 years younger than he is. They have not been intimate so far but she is living in his house in the guest room. He’s concerned about the difference in their ages.
Continue reading “Too Soon For A Live-in Girlfriend”
For anyone who has been married a long time, getting back into dating mode once the divorce is legally over can be extremely confusing. Dating when you’re young and relatively “unscarred” by life’s little disasters is much easier than dating when you’re healing from the destruction of divorce.
Continue reading “Dating After Divorce”
One of the things about being married for a number of years and then finding ourselves once again in the dating world is that it’s sometimes difficult to distinguish between the rules that have changed while we’ve been away from the game and the rules that remain the same.
Continue reading “Making The Call”
Dating is difficult. It can be fun, it can be exciting, it can make you feel good about yourself. Dating can also be confusing and even deadly. It’s particularly intimidating when you’re the left behind spouse, the discarded husband or wife.
Continue reading “Divorced And Ready To Date?”
Learning to date again, and taking time to make the right choices, is all part of surviving divorce. Dating while you’re separated and waiting for the legalities to be over is not the time to seek commitment with someone else.
Continue reading ““Almost Divorced” And Dating”
Taking any relationship slow and easy is the best approach. It’s not always easy as each person may be in a different stage of emotional growth or turmoil and their needs are different. One may be ready for a more intensive relationship or commitment, while the other person may only need someone to give them a hug and a kind word.
Continue reading “Rebound Relationships”
For the person who did not want their marriage to end, or who did everything in their power to keep the marriage together but ultimately ended up divorced, there are a mountain of emotions that must be worked through.
Continue reading “Dating Too Soon After Divorce”
She asked for advice regarding a situation that surfaced between her and the man she was dating. She is divorced and on civil terms with her ex. An upcoming trip with her children that also included her ex was causing jealousy with the new man in her life.
Continue reading “Post Divorce Ex Contact”
Are you angry about the way your marriage ended? Does that anger show up in the conversations you have with people you meet, conversations that eventually turn to your divorce and a rehashing of the whys and what-went-wrongs? Do you even realize how much time you spend talking about the bad deal you got, or how much you wish your husband or wife would come back to you?
Continue reading “Divorced With Baggage”
Newly divorced, you are raw and bleeding. You don’t understand what’s happening to you. You don’t have total control over your emotions. You aren’t ready to enter into a healthy, fulfilling, committed, relationship. You don’t know this because your judgement is cloudy and you are extremely needy.
Continue reading “Comfort Dating”
For the person who is newly divorced, meeting a “soul mate” and falling in love quickly is not unusual. It is best to stay out of serious relationships until we’ve healed from the divorce, but it’s not always easy to do.
Continue reading “Transition Love?”
One of the scariest parts of being divorced is getting back into the dating scene. How the heck do you meet people? People who are decent? People you can trust? People who won’t think you’re a loser because you’ve had a marriage fail? Or two?
Continue reading “The Divorced Dating Game”
From one of my articles on dating: “Looking single helps. I was speaking to a group of business people and asked them to hold up their hands if they were single and available. The number of raised hands surprised everyone in the room. I then told them to remove every ring off their left hand if they were serious about being identified as a single. Most people look immediately at the ring finger and if a ring looks even remotely like a wedding set or a band, they assume the person is married. If you don’t want to miss a dating opportunity, dump the rings!”
Continue reading “The Significance Of Rings”
She wants a commitment from her boyfriend who she says is “skittish” about committing to their relationship. There’s just one problem: she is separated and just starting the legal process of divorce.
Continue reading “Separated And Expecting Commitment”
The way children respond to divorce will be as varied as the participants and the circumstances. No one likes divorce, but some people (and children) are more mature handling it than others. In some cases, the children may welcome the fact that violence, abuse, and anger (if these were ingredients of the marriage) are no longer a part of their daily life.
Continue reading “Dating With Children”
Divorced men don’t have to limit themselves to one girlfriend at a time and some men don’t. Divorced women, too, are under no obligation to date just one man at a time.
Continue reading “His Other Girlfriends”
Ex-wives can pose special problems, particularly if they are the ones who wanted the divorce. “I think if Jack had been the one to leave, if it had been his decision and his choice, everything would be different,” Kerry says.
Continue reading “Ex-Wives”
A man’s daughter can be your biggest ally in the relationship you have with her father. Daughters can also be threats or perceived as threats to a relationship.
Continue reading “Dangerous Daughters”
She’s newly divorced, he’s in a bad marriage but concerned what divorce would do to his 3-year old son. They have been dating platonically for a couple months, are in love, and feel that they are soul mates. She wonders if she should wait for him to get a divorce.
Continue reading “She’s Divorced, He’s Married”
Her new boyfriend is in the final stages of a very nasty divorce. She wants tips on how to be supportive without overwhelming him.
Continue reading “Her Boyfriend’s Nasty Divorce”
He’s recently divorced after 23 years of marriage. He is emotionally involved with a woman who is married but “planning to do something soon.” He wonders if he should continue pursuing her considering the circumstances.
Continue reading “He’s Divorced, She’s Not”
She’s in her mid-50s and divorced after her husband left her for another woman. She wants to get married again but can’t seem to meet people she would like to date.
Continue reading “Divorced And Looking For Men To Date”
She says the friendship she’s had with a newly divorced father of two small children is getting more serious. She’s been checked out by the ex-wife and met the children once. He wants her to come home with him and spend the night (so far they haven’t been intimate).
Continue reading “Dating A Divorced Dad”
Marrying a divorced person can be hazardous if you’re not prepared to accept all the “extras” they bring with them. Divorce does not wipe out a person’s history in the same manner that reformatting a computer’s hard drive deletes old programs.
Continue reading “The Price The Next Spouse Pays”
He wrote to say he’s in the process of a divorce that he really doesn’t want because he still loves his wife. At the same time, after more than eight months of separation, he has now met someone he’d like to date. He wonders whether he should start looking out for his needs or continue hoping his wife will come back.
Continue reading “He’s Not Ready To Date”
Her divorce is just starting and her husband is living with the “other woman.” She’s looking for love in all the wrong places, and far too soon. She said: “I am having all these lustful thoughts about some of the men I work with. There about 8 men at work that I feel like if I could get one in the conference room for just a few minutes this fire would go out.”
Continue reading “To Flirt Or Not To Flirt”
If you’re just coming out of a long term marriage, the new dating game can be extremely intimidating. It’s intimidating for everyone so try to relax and ease into the shallow end of the dating pool instead of plunging headlong into the deep end.
Continue reading “Getting Back Into The Dating Pool”
Jumping into the dating pool after divorce can be extremely confusing particularly for the woman who has been in a long term marriage. It may seem that the dating rules have changed, and they have to some extent, but when it comes to sex and the newly divorced woman, common sense applies.
Continue reading “Sex After Divorce”
Probably the biggest and most worrisome issue facing divorced women is the question of what is the right time to have sex with someone they’re dating. When personal, moral or religious convictions prohibit sex without marriage, then the answer is simple: “Not until we’re married.”
Continue reading “Divorced Women: Dating and Sex”